6 Things New Mom Should Know (But No One Tells You)

 

 

Becoming a mom for the first time gets you into a completely new world you can be never fully prepared for. A mother of three is giving is sharing her experience hoping that her tips can be found useful by newly-made moms.

1. Most moms have no idea what they are doing
Sure, caring for a newborn isn't rocket science and there's mother's intuition to guide you, but the whole business of motherhood is truly just a huge job of winging it. You figure it out as you go along.
It's OK to make mistakes. Moms grow learn and grow up together with their kids...

2. Many tears will be shed
Your baby's and yours. Babies cry no matter how good of a job you are doing. Sometimes, they cry really hard and for so long that you think they'll never stop. There are times when you'll join them, crying from exhaustion, frustration and for many other reasons - it is also a part of being a mom. But remember: the crying will stop - it always does. But you need to be prepared for it.
3. Your old life is gone, but certainly not forgotten.
Everything changes when you bring a baby into your house. You can't help but become somewhat of a new person. It is normal and understandable to miss the past, the old you and your old life. As your baby grows and becomes less dependent, it'll become a little easier to reconnect with your old ways. Remember: that woman you used to be is still in there.

4. Your gut is your most valuable tool
Gut meaning your intuition. Listen to you inner voice - it will tell you what your baby needs. Don't let it be trumped by what you read in books, or by advice you get from someone else. You know your baby best. Do what works best for the two of you.

5. You will feel with far greater intensity than you ever felt before your child was born
It's true what they say, being a mother means wearing your heart on the outside of your body. A mother's heart is very vulnerable and yes, bursting with love you never knew existed. Maybe you expected that, but you may not have anticipated all of the other emotions that come along for the ride - guilt, resentment, fear and frustration, even loneliness.

6. You can't go it alone.
Neither one parent nor two can raise a child without some help. You need time to yourself. All moms need a reprieve from baby duty, even it is just for a short-time period. Enlist a helpful neighbor, compassionate friend or book a babysitter so you can get some time away. Your baby will be just fine, and you'll both be better off once you've had a chance to take care of your own needs.

Motherhood can a bumpy road to travel, but with a little veteran wisdom and support, we can all be better equipped to enjoy every precious minute of our child's first years.